Let the haters hate but listen to the inner voice!
Why? So many of us instantly get offended when a hater hates. We automatically categorize them as jealous they wish they had what I have but understand that those haters that hate care enough about you to comment. Inside those comments can come motivation and truth that should not be ignored. My story: Over the Fourth of July week we had many weekends because the Fourth of July landed on the Wednesday therefore in one week we had 3 weekends!!! It was easy to pick up 5 to 7 pounds of excess water weight. Pretty easy accomplishment if you’re eating burgers and hotdogs, and drinking beer and margaritas. The short of it my scenario was hearing the voices of haters saying wow Jeff has got a gut. For the last 2 to 3 months I’ve really been looking for motivation to work a little harder in the gym or watch what it was I was eating. Well now by listening to the haters hate I have the fuel in the motivation to work a little harder, eat a little smarter, and be more conscious of my decisions. The next time those haters see me they’re going to HATE me even more. Find your story where the haters are hating. Listen to the inner voice within that hate because it’s not necessarily hate it could just be perception and perception there is a little reality. Take a moment and think about when the last time somebody made a comment in front of you or behind your back and it got back to you. Did you brush it off or did you listen to it and did you take action around it? Another common example is marriage: Many of us are in happy marriage and many of us are in not so happy marriages. When you think about that for a minute think about how you feel about the person that you said “I do” too. Think about the love and compassion you had toward that person and yet there are moments in your marriage or you can’t stand to look at that individual because there is something called hate that’s brewing inside you. It could be hate that they don’t support you financially, it could be hate that they don’t help around the house, it could be hate that anything they touch turns to gold and everything that you do have to feel like a chore. Find the opportunity to love again and realize that if you hate that individual make sure they’re listening to the inside voices in the messaging that’s coming from you. You need to be willing to grow and change based on that voice and they should do the same. Unfortunately the haters are closer than you realize. It’s time to open your eyes and ears and listen to the inner voice inside the message. Now go show those haters how to hate because if you turn it upside down and turn it around fast they will hate you more. Take the inner voice and use it as fuel to do what’s impossible in your eyes. Listen to these voices because they will guide you in the direction that you need to go. I know this is against the grain. I know that every motivational coach and leader has told you to ignore the haters. I’m not telling you to listen to the haters I’m telling you to listen to the inner voice of the message. It’s very different. Best of luck and please wish me luck as I will need it for the next four weeks as I am in go mode. Jeff